Friday, March 17, 2017
He Loves Me
Every birthday for the last 35, he would wake me gently, his lips pressing upon my ear, caressing. "I love you, gorgeous. I love you beautiful. Happy Birthday." It was the first sweet greeting of another new year.
Today is my birthday. It is 2 am. I can't sleep. My mind wanders to the fact that this year Jerry will not whisper his love on my birthday. The tears well up in the outer corner of my eyes, but don't flow. My heart feels crushed. It aches. Tears then run freely.
I lay in the darkness. The dog near. One cat on the extra pillow near my head. Another nestled at my side. I try to breathe, slow deep breaths to clear my head and inflate my heart. I lay on my back, staring at the fluorescent stars on the ceiling of my son's former room, now mine. "Come...in a dream. Come please. Just come...it's my birthday..." My words desperate. It would be my fix for the day. The perfect "gift."
Then, I think how Jerry had a mind of his own. Once he had something in his head, there was no stopping him or convincing him of another course. He would wander off and not tell me where he was for hours, despite my worry. An independent, free spirit when he had something he wanted to do, he did it. He jumped out of a plane, waiting until I was on the west coast, and far away to do it. And he told me about it after he had done it. He knew I would worry and try to stop him. When we were trying to cut down on meat, he would come home now and again with a big slap of beef, the size my mother would feed to our entire family. He would sit down and eat it himself with butter melted on top. My look of disgust, resulted in a remark, between bites, "I know what I like."
I am laughing out loud. Alone. I remember just how stubborn he was. 'Bet he still is, I ponder.
Then I realize, that despite my begging, he may come to me in a dream or maybe he won't. My mind desperate to find resolution and peace, wanders. I think of a pile of daisy petals fluttering to the ground. He loves me. He loves me, not. I know with certainty, he loves me and always will.
Rex with his nose nestled into his front paws is sleeping. I hear his breathing. Julie purrs, kneading the blankets until she finds a spot to curl. I slip into a bed exhausted with the crazy ride of emotions and the fact that it is nearly 4 am. I feel so much better remembering I am blessed; I am loved.